Why We Should Stop Saying Solo Female Traveling Is Dangerous

I’ve lost count how many times I’ve been told, read, or heard about how dangerous solo female traveling is.

For someone who travels on her own, it’s frustrating when I keep on receiving texts from friends saying how much they fear for me traveling alone.

They might seem concerned, but these kind of remarks are unsettling, and only make me anxious.

The problem here doesn’t seem to be solo traveling, but solo traveling as a female. 

We sadly live in a world where misogyny is rampant. For a woman, to follow her passion in a world where she is constantly being told how to look, who to be, and what to do, it takes great courage.

Instilling fear in women is NOT helping.

I am not sure if it is a cultural thing, but here in America, we like to think everywhere else is unsafe.

It’s quite ironic because we live in a rape culture in America.

I personally know people who have been sexually assaulted on college campuses—places that should feel 100% safe.

For that reason, I think anything can happen anywhere. However, to think that the world is out to get you is simply not true.

Most people are not out to kill or hurt other people.

I know sometimes when friends and family say the world is a dangerous place, they are just showing concern. I feel like their words  can also come from a place of jealousy and wanting you to conform to their lifestyle.

I do believe that people can genuinely be concerned, but their concerns are rooted in judgments that solo female travelers “deserve” whatever happens to them.

This couldn’t be farther from the truth, of course—not that anything “happens” to most female travelers anyway.

Solo female traveling is perceived as just “another disaster ready to happen.” Don’t get me wrong. I am not naive; I do understand violence against women is sadly a thing both here and abroad.

However, the more we say solo female traveling is dangerous, the less sympathy a solo female traveler gets when somethings does happen to her on the road.

By normalizing how dangerous it is for solo female travelers, we are normalizing crimes upon women without even realizing it. We are contributing to the rape culture.

We need to stop saying how dangerous traveling alone is, so it’s not expected of us to be victims of crime everywhere we travel.

If we set our expectation for safety during travel as very high, we can render the correct empathy when there are bad events which violate our expectations—exactly the way we should be behaving all of the time.

The problem is not traveling solo as a female. The problem is we have failed to promote gender equality and respectful relationships.

We have failed to make the world a safer place.

Most importantly, we have failed to do our part and love one another.

Next time you come across a solo female traveler, don’t remind her how dangerous the world is. Be a part of a world that she can expect to be safe and treat her well. Simply wish her happy travels!

 

 

 

 

 


10 thoughts on “Why We Should Stop Saying Solo Female Traveling Is Dangerous

  1. Thank you for posting this! I love traveling solo, and so many friends/family have difficulty understanding it. They always just mention how dangerous it is instead of focusing on making it easier on us solo females. Thank you again!

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  2. Thank you for sharing! If females lived in fear of attack that kept them from traveling they would never see the world! My roommate and I are two blonde females and people were shocked that we wanted to visit Turkey. It’s all about learning and open yourself up to the people of the world.

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  3. nicely written article! great points.I love the conclusion especially. Danger is everywhere even if we are not travelling. There are places where I wouldn’t go even if I were a man, even though I reckon that for a woman it will always be more challenging then a man, I will still never stop travelling solo because this is how i am wired. Period. 🙂 hi Gem!

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  4. You just put a great message across. It took me courage to do solo traveling, it was a good experience. I think it’s okay to have fear, it will keep you safe, it will keep you alive. But to make value out of that fear, you must learn how to face and overcome it. The world is too big to be just in a corner with a restricted thought.

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